Hello, dear friends. I’m back, and just in time to reflect upon the year decade before starting fresh tomorrow morning.
Am I the only one who thinks it’s kind of crazy that an entire decade has zipped by since all that millenium hoopla awhile back?
I would get depressed, except reallly, quite a lot has happened.
And, if there’s one thing I’ve learned from parenting, its that every stage is flush with newness and opportunity. So, bring it on, I say. The adolescence of the era.
But first this:
At the beginning of this decade, I was 32. Now I’m 42. At the beginning of this decade, I’d been married 5 years. Now it’s been 15.
At the beginning of this decade, I had one daughter. Now I have two. At the beginning of this decade, I had four living grandparents. Now they’re all gone.
At the beginning of this decade, we lived in one house, now sold. Then we bought another house, now rehabbed.
At the beginning of this decade, we had two cats and a dog. And we still do.
At the beginning of this decade, I had one agent. Now I’ve got a different one. At the beginning of this decade, I had sold one book. Now I’ve sold six. And I hadn’t published any. Now there are two.
The beginning of this decade was pre-9/11. Now it’s post-. The beginning of this decade was pre-hurricane Katrina. Now its post-. The beginning of this decade was Bush era. Now its Obama.
At the beginning of this decade, we talked about Y2K. Now we remember the year two thousand. And it suddenly seems like an awfully long time ago. I think I was eager and hopeful then. And I still am.
Didn’t really plan an announced blog outage but seeing as how it’s been nigh on a week, it’s clear that my current priorities rest with cookies, wassail and the like.
So, on that note, I think I’ll sign off for a bit, with wishes for good spirits, good health and good friends for you all…
Yesterday was the last day of school for my daughters.
We went up in the morning for the holiday sing-along and back in the afternoon to deliver gifts to teachers. (And to hear the kids called out, "See you next year!" and then cracked up. Some things never change…)
In between, Small One’s class presented a short program on Peacemakers. They’d each chosen one (Ghandi… Cesar Chavez…. Helen Prejean… Pete Seeger…) to research and tell us about. There’d obviously been some rehearsing because they were clear as bells — all of them — talking about nuclear disarmament and nursing the poor and civil rights.
They stood in front of the little village of papier mache houses they’d made and a big bulletin board bedecked with images of the peacemakers. Imagine my surprise to see that the headline on the bulletin board read, "Hope and peace and love and trust, All the world is all of us." I think it’s my favorite reading of the book so far, and it was a silent one.
The kids had all taken UNESCO’s Pledge for Peace, too, and I was left with an overall sense of hopefulness that if these 8- and 9-year-olds grow up to run the world, things aren’t gonna be half bad.
On that note, and in the spirit of the season, these words today from Thich Nhat Hanh. Enjoy, and namaste…
WALKING MEDITATION
Take my hand. We will walk. We will only walk. We will enjoy our walk without thinking of arriving anywhere. Walk peacefully. Walk happily. Our walk is a peace walk. Our walk is a happiness walk.
I love teaching.
I love the opportunity to put on shoes and lipstick and leave my little cave every once and awhile.
I love being around when new writers experience epiphanies and evolution.
I also find it hard sometimes.
Trotting out the shoes and lipstick, yeah, but also trying to figure out how to be most helpful to my students.
What resources to offer… what to say and how to say it… what to require…
How to balance encouragement and critique… how to stay organized and on track… how to assess creative work…
At the end of each semester, I reflect on how it all went (okay, so I’m procrastinating because my grades are due today).
Here’s what I’ve come up with this time around:
1. Sitting in a circle is a good idea, even when I’m giving a sort of lecture.
2. The fewer lectures the better.
3. The more reading aloud the better.
4. Humor’s a good idea, too.
5. Workshops are richest when there are many voices. I’ve resisted "required commenting" for a long time, but I think I’m going to experiment with a new format next semester to get every single student to speak up more regularly.
6. Online workshops also work best when communication is frequent and vital. Students say they want to be left alone to work at their own pace, but that actually just allows them slip away into the great interweb void. I need to play a little bit more of the street performer to keep everyone engaged from beginning to end.
7. Meeting in person, at least once, might really, really, really help an online workshop gel. Just attaching faces to names and saying, "Please pass the cream." That sort of thing. Next semester, I plan to schedule an in-person get-together right out of the gate.
8. I work best when I have a particular day or two per week dedicated to teaching prep and student critique. I need to get in the zone through immersion. A little bit here-a little bit there is not efficient or inspiring.
9. Trying to discern between a student who needs a little empathy and a student who’s taking me for a sucker is.not.easy.at.all. So, although I do get burned at least once a semester, I’m still going to err on the side of a little empathy.
10. Not all students have library cards. I’m seriously thinking of making this a required part of all my syllabi from now on. I mean, it’ll look like a requirement but it will really be a gift. Y’know what I mean?
Now, if you’ll excuse me, I have some really dynamite portfolios to read.
The written word is alive and well in Austin, Texas.
Indeed it is…
Probably everyone else took care of their holiday gift list about a month ago.
But, if you’re like me — still ticking away and pretending like the post office is a kind and gentle place for last-minute mailers, take heart.
I have a few ideas for you…
2, Photo books a la Shutterfly, Snapfish or, my new favorite, A & I.
3. Gift certificates to Kiva, microloan love worldwide.
4. Paperwhite bulbs.
5. Homemade chocolate sauce.
I wish I could say I was knitting scarves (my Small One’s doing that) or making potholders (ditto) or otherwise crafting the perfect holiday gift. But I am missing the craft gene. Seriously.
A little kindergarten buddy of mine came over the other day and assessed our advent calendar — one of the only finished craft projects to my name. He wondered why I’d used an elf hat rather than a Christmas tree as the central motif. Um. The thing is, it IS a Christmas tree. See what I mean?
But if you guys are good at that sort of thing, carry on…
My agent, who’s also agent to a daunting number of supremely smart, funny and talented folk,
has launched a web site!
It’s pretty!
It’s inspiring!
It’s slick! Go see!
This weekend, I got word from friends coast-to-coast that All the World was named the year’s best picture book by the L.A.Times (thanks, Melodye!) and a Best Kids’s Book of the Year by The Washington Post (thanks, AnneMarie!)
Mercy, mercy me…
Also (and this kind of cracks me up) it was featured in People.
As in People Magazine.
For real, you guys.
They failed to include the photo of me hanging with the cast of Twilight, but they did recommend All the World on the books page. Isn’t that a trip?
My editor sent me a pdf of the page but I can’t figure out how to copy it here.
So, go ahead and imagine me with the cast of Twilight if you must…
We share the latest chapter in our latest chapter book every night.
My husband and I take turns. (He sometimes cheats and reads ahead after the girls go to bed.)
We take the books camping and on road trips and on airplanes.
We have a list of the ones next in line.
Often we’re all on the couch together.
Sometimes my Small One is doing handstands while she listens; sometimes, she knits.
The cats are there, too.
If the phone rings, we let it ring.
Nightly, when we finish, the girls beg for me.
Nightly, we give in.
But that’s not even what I’m grateful for today, if you can believe it.
Nope. I’m grateful for the fact that my daughters’ teachers know they haven’t outgrown being read to.
As third and fifth graders, they are read to every single day in school.
Tall One’s teacher is currently trying to finish The Tapestry before winter break; Small One’s teacher is a Bill Wallace fan.
They’ve built in their classrooms a culture of books, discussion, prediction, emotion, and passion.
They’ve established "reading for pleasure" as a priority.
They’ve helped recreate that intimacy that often only happens at home and, all too often, with much younger children.
For that I am grateful and so, I know, are the eight- and eleven-year-olds listening…
OK. So. We’re not real princesses. We came up with that name as a way to distract ourselves from the dull, thumping awareness that we’d committed to:
1. Writing a Crown Sonnet
2. Publishing it on our blogs
3. Using our real names to do so
4. Not freaking out or throwing up in public
I mean, really.
It’s a wonder we just anointed ourselves as royalty.
We might’ve locked ourselves in the Tower of London with medicinals.
But no.
We’re made of crazier stronger stuff than all that.
We wrote the dang sonnets.
And then we retreated into the black holes of our own private blogs for a year and a half.
Well guess what?
The memory finally sufficiently scabbed over and we took on another project — villanelles this time!
Kelly Fineman, our indisputed Duchess de Form, explains the ins and outs of villanelles here.
Beyond all that, our rules were to include the words friend and Thanksgiving in our first and third lines.
And to finish by today.
Nothing to it.
Right?
Oi.
You should see our panicky Google Mail exchanges from the last two weeks:
"… doesn’t meet the requirements…"
"… way darned harder than it looks…"
"… isn’t complete garbage…"
"… sigh…"
"… crap…"
But also:
"… lovely…"
"… a comfort…"
"… in awe…"
"… happy…"
Happy to be together again, that it is. Because really, is anything better than a community of smart, funny, like-minded friends willing to take on a 16th century French form poem on a whim? The luck of it all!
So on that note, and with gratitude, we share with you these… our poems.
Thanks for reading. And enjoy.
Thanksgiving through her lips, a whispered prayer – Let this night last, I do not want to say goodbye. Inside of every friendship there’s a dare,
a pit, a seed, a growing need to strip down bare. This is me, so full of fear but willing, still, to try. (Thanksgiving through her lips, a whispered prayer.)
She followed as his feet fell on the makeshift stairs –
breath like water, shoes like stones, a shimmer in her eyes.
Inside of every friendship there’s a dare.
At the top he took her hand, the wind let down her hair.
A slip of moon, his skin on hers, she felt like she could fly.
Thanksgiving through her lips, a whispered prayer
lost in the coming of the train, the whistle blared. Right now, he yelled. The dark turned light, she didn’t even cry —
inside of every friendship there’s a dare.
I did not fall, the trestle held, my god, I did not die. He laughed and bent to kiss her as the train rolled by.
Thanksgiving through her lips, a whispered prayer.
Inside of every friendship there’s a dare.
